What to do with the kids....

Years ago, weddings were all about the family. The WHOLE family…mom, dad, grandparents, aunts, uncles and all of the sweet nieces and nephews. But now, weddings are about the adults and the PARTY! A party, that we don’t want children involved. But here is the problem with that, what about the guest who have children..lots of them. When you do ADULT ONLY receptions, you force your out of town guest to make a pretty tough decision. The decision to stay at home or come and PAY someone to watch their children. You don’t want that, you want your invited quest to be able to come and celebrate with you and not have to pay someone to watch the babies…they’ve already spent enough to get there.

So let me share 4 ideas on how we can solve the whole children at the wedding issue:

  1. Have a separate area for the children. Book a venue that allows you to have a separate space for the children. A space that is kid friendly, filled with games, activities and lots of snacks! Hire someone to watch the children, and this will make for a great evening for the parents. Their kids are safe, in the same building as they are and they are having a ball and so are the parents.

  2. If your venue doesn’t have adequate space for a children play area or reception, then create a space just for the children at the reception. We do this a lot at our events, we create an area for the children. They normally have a table, brightly colored, filled with activities and goody bags. They are happy, busy and snacking away.

  3. Everyone knows that they real reason, we are leaning towards Adult Only Receptions is because the kids take OVER! They take over the dance floor… bucking, hoping and running. SOOOO, why not create a dance area, just for them. Let them dance the night away….in their own space and out of the way of the adults.

  4. And if all else fails…just go back to how it use to be and let the children come. The bible say…suffer the little children to come until me…literally let those babies come and enjoy. All we can do is pray that the parents will STEP UP when their children STEP OUT of line.

be blessed!

~from your FAV event planner, Andrea… lover of Christ

this is my therapy, my journal that I am sharing with the world. these blogs are non-related to clients. all blogs are derived from friendor’s request, follower’s request, information I’ve experience, given or from being nosey.

Scriptural Reference: Matthew 19:14

Communication is the key!

I am sitting here at about 11:30 p.m., saying to myself… I don’t have anything for my BLOG this week. So I just sat quietly and whispered, Lord give me something this week and he said, COMMUNICATION. Give tips from your own personal experiences on communication and it’s importance in any relationship but especially marriage. So, to all my engaged followers…this one is especially for you!

I’ve been married for 14 years and WE just learned the proper, effective, wise and kind way to communicate. Ha!!! We finally GOT IT! IT took us close to 14 years to finally understand how to communicate correctly for US! Now, don’t miss that! Each couple has their own style of communication and you have to know what works for you! I would like to share with our top 5 successful ways of communication.

1.Pray for timing:

Lord show me when the time is right! Timing is everything! Every time I need to discuss something with Stephen and I know it may be a sensitive subject, I ask God to reveal to me the right time, allow Stephen’s heart to be receptive and my delivery to be filled with love and respect. And I can happily say, my prayers have yet to be unanswered, my delivery to be disrespectful and his heart has always been ready.

2.Plan Communication Session:

We really had this one wrong!!! For years, we went off the cuff! Yelled when we felt like, jumped on a subject without all the facts. Just living off emotions. It wasn’t until about a little over a year, we realized the with our busy lives and all the chaos around us, it’s best when we plan to have serious discussions. I have a process, I share with women and that process is, somethings you just have to sit on…don’t talk about it RIGHT NOW…sit on it until you are able to think clearly, when you aren’t emotional and upset and when your hurting heart will allow you to see what’s really real.

After God has given me the green light and there is a pressing issue that I would like to discuss, I asked Stephen can I have a few moments of his time later that day. In the past, he would automatically roll his eyes but since becoming wise by seeking God’s direction first and coming to him with a request of his time, I am never turned down. Planning continues to give us that time we need to prepare and pray. You have to mentally be prepared for certain discussions and when you aren’t allowed that opportunity, then the end result is usually what we see…..unresolved conflict, an angry husband and a bitter wife.

3.Hearing your partner:

What do you mean hearing your partner? I mean, when your husband or fiancé says, “ It’s hard talking to you freely because you dissect everything I say, and put words in my mouth”. If your response is, “ I don't put words in your mouth, you just don’t say what you really mean”…. then they are 100% correct. You can’t tell a person what they really mean, only they know what they really mean. Hear your partner! Literally,train yourself to listen, to truly listen- don’t respond and when the conversation is over, self-reflect. Ask yourself, do I really dissect his words? Who else has told me that I dissect their words? And you will soon say to yourself, they are right.

4. Recognize when the enemy has showed up:

Often times, in our attempt to communicate effectively the enemy shows up. And he shows up because your communicating to well, you’re making progress, you’re reconciling, you’re making decisions- so he has to distract you. And he distracts you by taking the conversation in a totally different direction. You came to the table to discuss carving out time for each other and the devil reminds you that he finds times to spend with his brother every Sunday evening, so now you’re conversation has gone from, we need to carve out time to YOU MAKE TIME FOR WHO YOU WANT… you don’t want to spend time with me…and of course he’s looking real confused. BUT someone has to recognize( I hope the Lord of the HOUSE) the devil’s snare and redirect! The devil is a thief, and he wants to steal a very important component of your relationship….communication. A house divided cannot stand!

5: Walk away happy!

If you follow the top 4, everytime you sit down to have a conversation you should almost walk away laughing Even if you agreed to disagree, ain’t nobody mad but the devil! I remember the first time, Stephen and I experienced having a discussion ( a pretty heated discussion…I was actually in tears) and ended it with a kiss. He said his last little statement, I stood up walked to him for a hug to reaffirm how much I loved him, and he intentionally pushed me back to give me a kiss. I was tickled pink, I couldn’t believe it. But we decided to allow God’s spirit to overrule our own personal agenda, and that is truly the key.

I just finished a book, titled Kingdom Marriage- Tony Evans and it states.., if you or your spouse are still mad about a disagreement, conversation or situation days later- you have not allowed God’s spirit to truly reign in your heart.

To my engaged followers, believers of Christ…the ONLY way you will survive this thing we call marriage is you have to align yourselves with GOD, read his word daily, allow him to truly reign in your heart and lay each other at his throne of GRACE daily, pray and cover each other. Marriage is a beautiful thing, God smiles on it! Don’t be discouraged by the nay-sayers! Trust God! Opps..I guess that makes #6…6 tips of communication.

be blessed!

~from your FAV event planner, Andrea… lover of Christ

this is my therapy, my journal that I am sharing with the world. these blogs, are non-related to clients. all blogs are derived from friendor’s request, follower’s request, information I’ve experience, been given or over- heard in passing.

Scriptural Reference: Matthew 12:25

Why choose an event planner...

Why choose an Event Planner…..ummmm let me try NOT to scream the answer…..because it will keep you SANE!!! Planning an event can be overwhelming but planning a wedding is a horse of a different color!!! But guess what? That horse can get right, when you decide to hire an event planner.

An event planner who takes the initiative to educate oneself on the latest trends, build relationships with vendors, is involoved in the community and has an unlimited amount of knowledge and resource can be a life saver for you. Event planners spend countless hours researching, meeting, collaborating and sharpening their skills to be the best they can be for you. An event planner is designed to make your life as stressless as possible, we’re you’re GO TO. We’re the next best thing to long time hair stylish or barber. We’re the ones you cry with, laugh with, share the good, the bad and the ugly with…we know your deepest fear/ sercrets and we will share one of your happiest moments, becoming a bride. We’re important and we are worth every penny!

If I was asked to offer 1 bit of advice to any person planning an event, especially a wedding on what to look for in an event planner/wedding planner, it would be FRIENDSHIP. Make sure you choose someone that you can see as your bestfriend because you will be spending a lot of time together. If that person can’t make you laugh, when you call- answer HEY GURRLL, take off the planner hat ever once and a while to let her hair down to enjoy life with you, know when you aren’t happy with a vendor, a food choice, the look and taste of a sample cake, the dress you tried on and can’t give you an honest answer when you ask, “What do you think”"? That is not your person. When you ask, “ what do you think”- responding “ it’s your day, it doesn't matte what I think”…isn’t always the best answer. You hired an event planner for their opionion.

Lastly, be reminded of the old saying- You get what you pay for! An event planner, has the task to plan your entire event. A 300 guest wedding, a Large Corporate Conference, your only grandmother’s 80th birthday party and your oldest son’s graduation dinner. These moments are precious and you want them executed well. Event planners who may appear to be expensive, aren’t expensive. They understand their worth, their value and they know that they are going to give 115% of them to give you the best event ever.

So again, why hire an event planner…. because it's the wise and sane thing to do!

~Be Blessed

from your FAV event planner, Andrea lover of Christ and

this is my therapy, my journal that I am sharing with the world. these blogs, are non-related to clients. all blogs are derived from friendors request, followers request, information I’ve experience, been given or over- heard in passing.

Ohh you too expensive...TO YOU!

Things you hear at the beautician…“ Oh they High” Oh they expensive” “ They like their products” was thrown around like a hot potato and all I could do was shake my head, while knowing my beautician was doing the same. Every time I hear this, I get so tickled!!! I know there is another entrepreneur laughing with me! First let me say this for all of us…EXPENSIVE is a relative word. PWC is so blessed to service several clients all of the United States and one thing we don’t want people to think is that we are too expensive. I deal with so many different types of clients, some with little budgets, big budgets, no budgets and really really small budgets and guess what, I can accommodate all. I always give clients more than what the pay for. I give them my best, I work as if I am working for the LORD. The problem for those who say, “ ya’ll so high”, is their eyes are WAY bigger than their wallet and that’s OK!

Let’s just be honest with ourselves, we do want we want to do. We pay for what we want to pay for and once again, expensive is a relative word.

In my opinion:

A sew- in with Brazilian hair is expensive. ( I use regular hair)

Front row tickets to a Beyoncé Concert is expensive. ( I was way up, could barely see her)

Purchasing a brand new Jaguar is expensive. ( I drive a Ford Explorer)

Staying at the Peabody for a night is expensive. ( I only stayed back in the day, when I was still leaving with parents)

Sending your child to private school is expensive.( Been there, done that and complained the entire time)

And eating at Char after 5:00 p.m. is expensive ( I only go with my husband, so he can pay- just keeping it honest)

However, there is someone somewhere with gorgeous Brazilian hair, driving a Jaguar, with children in private school, who sat on the front row of the Carter Tour Concert in 2018, who eats at Char for dinner on the regular and who is going to see Lebron in Memphis in March who will stay at the Peabody…and guess what? That’s their lifestyle and they will not utter not one time, any of it is expensive because EXPENSIVE to them is not relative to those things listed above.

On a funnier note…that same person would come to PWC for service and say, “ My goodness ya’ll expensive”. Where is the hand on your face emoji, when you need it! LOL LOL LOL

All jokes aside, lets be mindful in 2019 on how we use that word. It is absolutely nothing wrong with saying, something or someone is expensive…just add TO ME! Oh and back to my beautician above, to some she is expensive but for me, I’m going to keep paying whatever amount she charges me because she is worth every dime!

As professionals, when a potential client comes to you and states another professional is “ High” or “ Too Expensive”, just be reminded we are completely unaware of the service(s) requested and also be reminded cutting deals, giving discounts and negotiating in the end may result in happy clients but leaves you pinching pennies.

I will not pinch pennies in 2019!

  • Be Blessed, Andrea

    this is my therapy, my journal that I am sharing with the world. these blogs, are non-related to clients. all blogs are derived from friendors request, followers request, information I’ve experience, been given or over- heard in passing.

It's just the RIGHT thing to do....

I must say, life and it many surprises forced me to do this blog. I am speaking for all PROFESSIONALS today, and the key word is professionals. It is so important, when you make an appointment and you realize you will not be able to make the appointment to call, email or text to cancel. It’s just the right thing to do… I don’t know any other way to say it. It’s just the right thing to do.

Professionals prepare for meetings, they arrive early to make the atmosphere warm and cozy for meetings, they ensure their appearance is professional and inviting for meetings and the block off time from their family, friends and other events for meetings. Most importantly when time is blocked off to meet with a client, we are now losing money for that schedule meetings. Now, frustration has set in and when we decide to change our policy to where we will charge for meetings/consultation, we now have to deal with individuals stating…” Oh they charge to met with them, they must be special or think they are Top of the Line”. YES, I am special…. to my husband, my children and all the clients that I serve everyday and give them 100% of me. The same clients, I denied a meeting with to schedule a meeting with you and you didn’t think to even reach out to cancel. And yes, I am Top of the Line, I’m assuming that's why the appointment was made. We all are Top of the Line, to the clients who seek to do business with us.

Time is valuable, that’s the one thing you can not get back and first impressions is an exchange that work in both directions. If a client makes an appointment and I am late, unprofessional, dressed unprofessionally and etc., that client would more than likely NOT want to do business with me. This works the same for a client who makes an appointments, receives weekly and daily reminders and choose not to contact for cancellation.

To all my colleagues and business professionals…You are Welcome.

To other readers, if this is you or you have done this before…lets just all do better. Respect time, respect the person…It’s just the Right thing to do!

-Be Blessed, Andrea

I'm FAT...to WHO?

So you’re NOW engaged and after 22 years of life, you “ realized” you’re FAT! You’ve joined a gym, hired a trainer and started weightwatchers all in the same day!! So now when we go try to have a planner/bride bonding experience at a restaurant, we can only eat avocado and a spinach salad with no dressing. I DONT EAT LIKE THAT… everyone knows I love food! So once again, I have to take off my PLANNER HAT and put on my WE EATING SOME CHICKEN NEXT WEEK HAT!

How many brides have I had to coach through the I’m fat syndrome??? If I have to hear another bride say, “ I’m so fat” while standing in a Vera Wang gown, shaped like Ciara…I am not going to Level UP but GET UP and walk out. Listen sis, you’ve gotten what most women dream of…a FIANCE! And guess what, if you are FAT, he LOVES your FAT self. We as women are our worst critic. You see that image below? Look down, all the way down. Yea, that’s FAT OH ME!!! Yep, at 99 pounds soak and wet, I was walking around screaming I’m FAT. Tender age of 20 and complaining! You can only imagine how may eye rolls, I received on a daily bases! BUT now, I’m an advocate for some cushion for the pushing!! I believe that woman should have curves and clearly most women agree because, they stay in the gym making booties, thighs and hips.

Sis…beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the Bible states, that a women draws her husband close to God and persuades him by her humble and quiet spirit not by her appearance. Release the pressure, there is always someone bigger than you. Focus on your DRAWING POWER and not if you’re getting wider!

I must admit, I’m a little OCD when it comes to my weight and my husband told me these words just the other day and it changed my outlook-Focus on being healthy. God created all of us, BUT very different and you must learn to love the bone structure he used to design YOU. Love you, all of you even if its ALOT of YOU…love you! Honor his temple, your body is his dwelling place. Take care of it but don’t stress it out with quick diets, extreme cardio and etc.

Choose to be Healthy not FAT….but who are you really FAT to?

P.S.- Just incase my pep-talk didn't work….I must admit….those waist trainers are the TRUTH!!! You may pass out but that waistline will be snatched!!!

-Be Blessed from a really really FAT girl..hence the image below. I just rolled my own eyes at myself!!

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Welcome!

Well I guess the old saying out with the OLD and in with the NEW is true because, somehow my 2018 BLOGS were deleted! Oh well, lets do this 2019.

For those of you who don’t really know me, I love to write. I am probably the only 37 year old that still write checks. I have journals for days! I write short stories! I hand write letters to my husband and I still do my budget on paper. SOOOOO why not jump all over this Blogging thing.

Plus where do I vent…. duh HERE!!!

Clients/Brides get to vent all the time about ummmmm nothing. Just kidding…I’m a jokester too. I choose to be happy! I love God, so try to find the humor in some of my biblical context. Hey… I can’t remove who I am. I am a child of the KING! King JESUS that is and I just want to share my joy, via the KING with each of you.

This will be more of a therapeutic blog for me and an informative blog for ya’ll. Oh yes, I’m a country gal too.

Be blessed…lets BLOG!

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